Let’s Talk About Babies and Crying…

Being a new mom you get advice all the time, and I do mean all the time! Most of the advice I get comes from strangers and for some odd reason it occurs at Walmart the most. Its like women can smell a new mom, and like a hunting tiger they attack!Tiger

I get the everyday advice like how to stop a baby crying – mostly because my son is crying when we are in the store, but it isn’t like the stranger is being sweet and trying to help. They are judging! I see behind those fake smiles people and yes I have heard the under-the-breathe comments like “my baby never cried,” the “I can’t believe she hasn’t stopped that baby from crying yet,” or my personally favorite, “this is why kids should be left at home.”

What did they just say about me?
What did they just say about me?

Now I am not being bitter, honestly I find all of these comments to be hilarious and I hear them a lot! Here is my take on babies crying in public- he is a baby and guess what – he cries! Just like you are taking time and energy to express your feelings about my son to me, my son is taking time and energy to express his feelings as well. His articulation is perfect it’s just that he doesn’t know the words yet.

You say your baby never cried…I doubt that. Unless of course you kept shoving a bottle or pacifier into their mouths, which I personally think is cruel. Children need to learn to develop their own voice and this starts with crying. As far as I am concerned if my baby is fed, changed, I am holding him and he is crying, then he must need to cry – get over it people! Babies cry, end of story.

They just can't see it...
They just can’t see it…

Remember that anyone can give advice, that doesn’t mean you are obligated to take it. When it comes to children it typically takes awhile for new parents to realize that everyone has an opinion and will shove it down your throat. I was blessed to have an older brother who has 3 children and was able to learn this lesson early on.

New parents stand your ground and don’t worry about the others around you. If your child is crying in a public place don’t let the haters get to you. As long as you care for your son or daughter and love them unconditionally than you are a great parent! Keep doing what you are doing!

 ~Sarah

Hello World:

My name is Sarah and I am 37 weeks pregnant – just to be clear that means I am extremely large and for the most part, crabby! Since a vast majority of you are not women and or your not pregnant, I just wanted to let you see a glimpse as to what it feels like both physically and emotionally.

The question I get asked the most, how does it feel to be pregnant? Answer: It is like you are caring a 30-pound weight on your lower abdomen and you are not allowed to take it off, even when you sleep! For comparison, my puppy Cooper is a little over 30 pounds. Image him laying on you at all times and not being able to move him.

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Do you know what that means? It means that in order to turn over in bed at night you must wake up, support your stomach (or back) and swing it over to the side you want to lay on, and I do mean swing. There is really no way around it, you can’t roll because then you are on top of your baby, and standing up and readjusting is just out of the question, know why? Because your hips are in a ton of pain and adding more pressure to them is enough to make you roll over to your spouse and punch them, in their sleep – of course when I do this I blame our puppy.

Now that we have discussed sleeping habits, minus the waking up every 30 minutes or so to go to the restroom, let us move to chores. I will be the first to admit that my husband does a lot for me, he is just nice like that, but there are some things that he just doesn’t do the way I like…I know I am picky! So that means that a lot of things that need to get done around the house don’t, why is that you may ask – easy, like I stated above I have a 30-pound, non-removable weight on my abdomen, and my hips hurt so much that just your basic duck-shuffle sends me over the edge.

Note to friend: If you come into my home expecting perfections, please just leave…If you are a true friend, please pick up any number of the cleaning supplies that you can find and help! I also have plenty of laundry that needs to be put away before my puppy, Cooper, can steal anything else. (For some reason he really likes to steal remote controls and whatever else he can get his mouth on really.)

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As my husband so lovingly put it this past weekend, I have no more stamina. I cannot walk through 4 stores in less than 3 hours like I use to, plus walk everything up the stairs to my apartment, and then proceed to putting it all away, it just isn’t going to happen people! I do give a little blame to the fact that I live in a small town and the only store that has a “expecting mothers” parking area is Macy’s….I don’t need a thing at Macy’s!

Expectant Mothers Parking  So we park fairly far away and it takes me 5 to 10 minutes just to get to the main entrance of a store, and because it’s a weekend, fight through a hoard of people that just don’t care if your pregnant or just large.

I would also like to take some time to thank the elderly woman who clearly saw me waddling after my husband at Kohl’s this weekend and instead of waiting for us to pass, cut us off completely­­ – I almost fell flat on my face, an object in motion and all that! I would have let it go if you didn’t do the same thing to the couple walking into the store as you were “walking” out…more like bulldozing them over to get out. Poor couple looked like a deer in headlights (I also don’t get why you didn’t use the door adjacent to the couple entering in, but what do I know about common courtesy).

Now for the positive side of things: Yes, I am 37 weeks pregnant. I have clothes laying all over my home, a puppy that wants to play fetch or tug of war all the time, dishes piling up in the sink, and a full time job that I must be present at until my son is born. However, it is nice to have these problems, and it is very humbling to know that even though life gets stressful, I am happy with where I am in life.

It breaks my heart to think about those who don’t have a pile of clothes waiting to be folded because all they have is the shirt on their backs. There are no dishes in the sink because there was no food to cook. These are the real issues of our time! We have grown so accustomed to getting what we want and convincing ourselves that it is a need, we forget about those who don’t even have the basics.

The pain that I feel in my body is fleeting. Soon I will have my son and all these “inconveniences” will be placed in a box deep in my mind, but one thing is certain, I don’t want to forget how truly blessed I am regardless of the problems I convince myself I have.

I challenge everyone including myself to take some time today to think about your problems compared to the problems of the world, or even just the problems of your neighbor. Is it really worth all the focus you are giving it? Can you take the focus off yourself and turn your attention onto another?