I’m human. That means I’m not perfect, nor do I want to be.
Emotions get the better of me, just like they do for everyone.
Anger is normal and feeling grumpy is normal. These emotions every human struggles with.
It’s important to me that I teach my son about his emotions, so that he knows its normal and that he can discover how to control them as he learns and grows.
Both of us had a lesson to learn this morning and I thought it was a good story to share. So, here it goes.
Tobias woke up extremely grumpy this morning, which is unlike him. I checked to make sure he wasn’t running a fever and everything else check out. He was just grumpy. Before we left the house, I told him, “Its okay to be grumpy, just don’t let that affect how you treat others.”
He glared at me and pouted out his little lips.
As we began our journey to work and daycare he increasingly got worse and let his grumpiness turn into actions. He began to treat me poorly and say things that I was shocked to hear from my normally sweet toddler.
I lost it – just like normal humans do. Even more so since I was in a hurry to get to work.
In a matter of a minute, I found myself being equally as mean, while also trying to correct behavior. (Momma fail: I do my best to not have double standards, but again- I’m human.)
Slowly, his face scrunched up and his lips curled back as he began to cry. More from me yelling then the words I was speaking.
I stewed in my anger and then heard the Lord whisper, you have a choice here.
Glancing down at my clock I saw that I could still make it to work on time if I just kept driving, but one look back at my son and my choice was made.
Quickly, I found the nearest parking lot to pull into safely and I parked my car. Took a few deep breathes before I unlocked the doors, and walked back to my son.
His tears were staining his face and soon I couldn’t stop my own. I pulled him into a hug and told him I was sorry for yelling and that I didn’t mean to make him cry.
We talked about how we can be grumpy and be upset, but it was not right for us to treat others unkindly – a lesson we both needed to remember!
His arms clung to my neck as he wiped his eyes and nose across my shirt.
“I sorry, momma,” he said.
“I’m sorry too,” I replied.
Pulling back from his embrace, his eyes still red from crying, I wiped away the remaining tears and just held my little boy.
“Watch mama,” I said as I moved my hands across my face to wipe at my own eyes. “I’m wiping off my anger and moving forward.”
He watched me intently and I could feel his spirits lifting.
“I wipe away my grumpy,” he said as he mimicked my actions.
He hugged me once more and then gave me a big kiss. I closed his door and began to walk back to my seat. I could feel the Lord still pulling at my heart and using the lesson to grow my character along with my sons.
We sat in silence for the rest of the car ride. I glanced back at him often and he just simply smiled, letting those cute dimples of his show.
Once we got to his daycare I grabbed his hand to lead him into the building and he smiled brightly up at me. “I love you, momma,” he said and squeezed my legs into the tightest hug he could manage.
I lowered my pregnant body down to him and squeezed him back. A tear dripped down my cheek
“I love you more,” I said. “Do you still feel grumpy?”
“Yes,” he said, “but I will be kind.” He smiled up at me and gave me one last kiss before he ran towards his friends.
I was late for work, but the Lord was right, I had a choice and I chose to take my time to teach my son. (He is more important!)
We are all human. We all make mistakes, but we also have a choice.
I want to choose to always be kinder than I feel, and I hope to teach this lesson to Tobias and my other child, earlier than I learned.
To me, it is important to remember to teach our children that is ok to be grumpy, angry, sad and happy; but regardless of how we are feeling, we must always treat each other with kindness.
Every lesson I teach is also a lesson for myself. Each lesson helps me to Discover My own Heart.