My husband, Robert, tends to be a quite person, but there are times when his words linger with me and I cannot help but reflect on them.
Our son is a momma’s boy—I am the one to do everything for him. Not because Robert doesn’t want to, but rather Tobias doesn’t want him too.
Life would be so much easier if the kid would let someone other than me change him! 😛
Last night Tobias decided he wanted to cuddle on the couch with his daddy, and it was the sweetest moment. I was crossing the room about to sit on the couch to enjoy the family time when my husband stopped me.
“Don’t take this from me,” he said.
That was enough to stop me.
For a split, second I wanted to get upset because I was tried and wanted to relax with the rest of them, but then I understood.
The reality is, if I had sat on the couch Tobias would have come over and asked to sit on my lap. This would have killed that rare moment Robert had with him.
There was no anger or malice in his tone, but rather a man just wanting to be involved in his child’s life.
This exchange opened my eyes to times I may have inadvertently taken a moment from him, just because I am “mommy.”
I let the thoughts fade and went into another room to relax so they could have some Father-Son time and honestly, I am glad I didn’t get worked up over Robert’s words.
It is important that my child has a great relationship with his daddy. There are times that I need to just leave the room and give them a chance to bond.
it is hard to distance myself from Tobias. After all, he is my son, but I don’t want to take away a chance for him and Robert to have a strong relationship.
Robert is a great father, and I can see how my presence can take those oh-so-sweet moments with his child away.
I will do my best to never take moments like this away every again!